How has Denial Isolated You from Important Relationshps?
- Denial that I’m wrong reveals pride that made me nearly impossible to be around
- Denial of the problems themselves results in collateral damage as the people who I love are pulled into it
- Denial of God’s calling on my life kept me from wisdom and loving relationships that bring me closer to knowing the person of Christ.
Guys struggle mightily with isolation – there are always those who try to enable us pointing back to hunter gatherer times but let’s look at the fruit before we let genetics and the past before we knew about much of anything before we cast off responsibility to change. Extended isolation when there is a choice does not usually lead to God’s will in our lives primarily because Christ told us what God’s will is for our lives and hanging out by ourselves isn’t it.
Promise Keepers is a men’s organization whose primary goals is to keep guys connected with the Lord and other men in order to fulfill God’s mighty call on their lives. Every year I go and connect with guys. I think, “hey, maybe this isn’t that bad.” 
And then I go back to “real life.” Of course the guys who thrive on social interaction and hugs don’t get me but that is perhaps 50% of guys if not less.
If you are a guy who struggles with isolating yourself in either bad times or good, know that you are not alone and that we have been called to something in Christ which extends beyond our capability to achieve – we don’t have to want to be in relationship with others necessarily but he brings people together. Often those people are misfits and the least likely to be able to accomplish his work but it isn’t about us – it is about him.
Great post. YOu make it seem so easy to share your experiences. I wish I could do as well in sharing on my blog. I just got it started and sometimes feel stuck on what to share or if it is the right thing to share. what to do?