Hey Jennifer – I wish I had more to do w/ the nooma’s, Rob bell (& the Holy Spirit) has credit for that gig.
Where you’re coming from is a substantial step. check step 1. that might read easy, but walking that step out doesnt come cheap. It usually carries a great deal of baggage from umpteen years ago. Well done, staying obedient to God’s will.

Thank you so much for sharing this point of extreme honesty in your life. I’m so proud – can’t even begin to explain the difference in my life between when I stopped working on fixing the issues that ailed me, and just brought them to God. Granted, there has been a ton of work along the way, but the yoke is easy & the burden is light.

Therapists are great, keep going & that’s wonderful you found a good one. finding a meeting in your area is pretty easy, and I (hope) your therapist will support going out on a limb a bit and finding both an acccountabilty partner and a sponsor The celebraterecovery.com website is reasonably up-to-date… and if it isn’t, let me know. I’ll break out the whip of chords and get old-school on them JK – other Christ-centered groups in that area, I’m sure…

Seriously though, you’re in the right place so far as knowing what is going on. Keep moving further. The penchant will be for people to over-encourage to the point of stagnation. Seriously – 4 yrs of watching about 500 guys quit (no kidding).

I don’t get any Christian bonus points for that either The only way to get after these types of issues are letting Christ decide the timing, so I will pray for you & the husband to be connected w/ other brothers & sisters soon. all the best -

Thanks so much for sharing – excellent point & I empathize with your story. Matt. 5:23-24 jumps all over this. I’ve come to God for answers when the answer lay in my disobedience to God’s direct order to me.

My humility before God and willingness to let him make things right has been key in my marriage and definitely has impacted other relationships. I’m a little slow on the “other relationships” part because I can always wall myself off from them, but it always comes back out

What I heard was that sometimes trials in our lives may come to us to show us an area of sin in my own life I need to confess. In other words- I am focused on this thing that I think is a big negitive in my life- but really- there is something it is pointing out in me that needs to be addressed.

An example is for years I have let little comments slip out of my mouth here and there (that my husband was able to hear) about a situation we have at home. Things like-’I'll be glad when we don’t have to deal with this anymore’. I have realized that this pointed to a deeper heart attitude that was wrong-it masked anger and resentment that I have let hold on for way too long. It also allowed me to not see an ex-spouse as a person God cares about. I have heard it called a ‘root of bitterness’ once in a sermon. I am so convicted by this- I think the peace I long for in our home has to start with my heart before God. All thoughts welcome…….